His dad played Santa Claus in various malls below the Mason-Dixon line during the yuletide season. My boyfriend listened to emo rock, for God's sake! I loved that he shared a house off Sunset with a gay, Pakistani performance artist.
I loved that he'd had the same Rottweiler for a pet since high school. I loved that he was a plaintiff's attorney, helping clients who'd been discriminated against in the workplace. Fourteen years and two kids later, race is still a thing, in a growing list of things, that defines us.
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May 17, 6: I told myself I was going to AA meetings to meet guys. By Jill Di Donato. Jun 02, 7: Here's the truth: Race is still a thing. Over the years working in numerous writers rooms as the only black writer, I'd become a pro at deciphering comments white guys made: Interracial relationships aren't a big deal nowadays.
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Some of my friends date Asian women. Today, kids don't care about race. My kid listens to hip-hop. We continued dating, and soon we were exclusive.
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This didn't come without challenges. Race is a thing. The more serious the relationship got, the more I started thinking about kids. The least that white LGBT people can do is to reciprocate and confront racism within their own ranks. The far-right movements on the march across the western world are consciously trying to co-opt the LGBT rights campaign for their own agenda.
Muslims are portrayed as an existential threat to gay people, particularly after Orlando.
This week, Milo Yiannopolous — a gay attention-seeker who has become an icon of the US far right — was at the centre of a media storm because a platform to speak at his old school was withdrawn. In the Netherlands, the anti-immigrant right was led by a gay man, Pim Fortuyn, until his assassination. In France, reportedly a third of married gay couples support the far-right National Front. The struggle against racism has, of course, to be led by people of colour who suffer the consequences — such as Black Out UK , which fights for a platform for black gay men, and Media Diversified , which campaigns for minority representation in the media.
But unless white LGBT people — who the official gay scene venerates — listen to the voices of those who are sidelined, little will change. Being oppressed yourself does not mean you are incapable of oppressing others: LGBT people have had to struggle against bigotry and oppression for generations. It is tragic that they inflict and ignore injustice in their own ranks.
Topics Race Opinion. What do I do about it? Actually, you can. Think of it like learning a new language, better still, think of it like unlearning a racist one. In social psychology there is a theory called The Mere-Exposure Effect. Simply put, the more we are exposed to someone, the more attractive they become to us. As gay men of color we get more than enough discrimination from the rest of the world. Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you.
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