Dating in the gay world is already difficult enough. We already have to go through such a huge list of things when picking a potential partner. We have to consider whether or not they are down low or out of the closet, comfortable accepting the fact that they're gay or not, if they have HIV or any other diseases or test negative, if they're seeking one partner or looking for open relationships, if they're bisexual or homosexual, are they secretly married, and if they're masculine or feminine enough for us.

So why also throw in sexual position? Dating Is Already Hard: Not only do we have to consider a lot of those factors, but, even outside of those, there are the problems that naturally come along with dating.

If this person is nice enough, friendly enough, smart enough, funny enough. Will he get along with my family and friends? Can I trust him? Worrying about someone's sexual position is one thing we should throw to the side.

We already restrict ourselves in so many situations when it comes to dating. Let's forget about not being able to date someone because they're also a bottom like yourself. Two Bottoms Dating: When it comes to two bottoms dating, there's more to a relationship than just sex. In the general aspect, you can really enjoy a person and love them very much outside of a sexual feeling.

But if you really want to focus so much on sex and find it incredibly important then consider becoming versatile. When we fall in love we make sacrifices for that person. Although you may not enjoy it, be willing to give your partner penis if that's what he desires and have him do the same. As you might have guessed, the participants were using cues related to masculinity e. The authors conclude with this tantalizing suggestion: Together, these results suggest that people rely on perceptions of characteristics relevant to stereotypical male—female gender roles and heterosexual relationships to accurately infer sexual roles in same-sex relationships.

Thus, same-sex relationships and sexual behavior may be perceptually framed, understood, and possibly structured in ways similar to stereotypes about opposite-sex relationships, suggesting that people may rely on these inferences to form accurate perceptions. Related content: Do lesbians have better gaydar than straight women? They always omit the obvious, case in point: Excellent reply to a shitty article. Well done. Well said, verse here.

Some masculine tops are submissive. And some feminine bottoms are dominating…. I have had two experiences where I have played the insertive role, while only receiving oral sex, not giving it.

I explained to my partner in both occasions the reason for doing so considering myself straight, but curious. They were both fine with it. I am not sure if they were the bottom in their relationships with other gay men. Although, they were both rather feminine…. Thank you so very very very much. Was beginning to think that maybe I. In defense of the authors, they do address this in the main text of the paper. Relevant passage: Thank you very much for sharing this information. I initially thought to correct your offensive and narrow-minded comment…but then I figured it would be a waste of time.

Your ignorance is overwhelming. To say nothing of your deplorable grammar skills. You deigned to respond because it is a value we all humans deserve. As familiar and boring as it usually is to read comments like this on the Internet, this one really gets the prize for blatant non sequitur. Wait a sec?!

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Comical …. Is this real all that important? What about those who are versatile? It seems to be that there is too much fixation on what someone does with thier genitals. I mean there are those who are agressive and submissive in romantic encounters. What are your preferences for form and function? In that way, gay men are way more picky than woman in life matters and sexual play, but also good at prioritizing their choices.

Who's On Top?

It is actually a horrible shame that gay males cannot make genetically other male babies with each other in their lifetimes in this era. Whereas most FemiNASTY women are anti-male and seek to sex up the bad boys while financially raping productive Beta Males and in the long run, degrade the value and strength of their local male gene lines.

There are some statistical errors with the paper e. That aside, the paper tries to tease out our actual ability to distinguish from our natural bias to classify men as tops that is, even knowing that half of the faces are tops and half are bottoms, people are categorizing more than half as tops and less than half as bottoms.

One more gripe. Some people are versatile. Some people just are not versatile, and no amount of shaming or head-scratching will change them. Some gay men use these labels to identify themselves or to find partners that match their preferences. Others prefer a more loose interpretation of their sexual roles.

Want to add to the discussion?

It is not unusual for gay men to define themselves this way. The whole issue of top versus versatile hit the gay community big time in with the release of a survey published in the "Archives of Sexual Behavior," entitled Gay Top and Bottom Roles Generalized by Stereotypes. The study revealed that judgments made about whether an individual is a top, a bottom, or a versatile are simply based on perceived not actual masculine and feminine traits.

Let's get clinical for a moment: