Some people worry about the time commitment required to volunteer for an organization. This is a very valid concern.

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It helps if you are up front about what you can and cannot do when you speak to the volunteer coordinator. Even if you can only be a greeter for an annual event or work the coat check, for example, it is something. And hey, a little bit of something is better than a whole lot of nothing. Yep, you read that right! A professional organization to which you may already belong likely has a chapter dedicated for LGBT members. The point here is that whatever you do for employment, there is likely a professional organization with a gay-focused subdivision.

Almost all of them hold events, including socials, mixers, and fundraisers. If you belong to one of these associations, great—your work is half done. If not, why not look for one that fits your particular background? As mentioned earlier, dating is a numbers game. Some may recoil at this suggestion, but guess what? Many partnered men have reported meeting their husband at their local gay-friendly church or spiritual center.

There are a lot of gay men who are deeply spiritual—and not just the bat-crap, self-loathing types that we often hear about, either. If you have a local place of worship or other community-based venue for spirituality and you identify with what is offered, why not give it a try? More and more, religious organizations are recognizing that LGBT folks have spiritual needs.

If you are one of those people who are not sure what you believe in, consider taking the Belief-o-Matic self-assessment. Did you know there are gay communities of Agnostics, Quakers, Pagans, Humanists, and so forth? There sure are! And there are gay atheists who congregate, as well. Take the self-assessment to see where you fit in. Obviously, going to a local gay-friendly church or spiritual center should be about your spiritual nourishment and well-being.

Think about this first before you decide which venue for spirituality is best for you. The dream that one day, you will meet the guy of your dreams is a wonderful thing to dream about. But fantasizing and doing something to make it happen are two different things. If you want to meet your next boyfriend, then you will have to take control of the process. The Promethean spark of love only happens if there are two available people who happen to be at the right place at the right time.

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I am very much interested to know you and hopefully become your friend. I have nothing much to say but i know how you feel. And i understand where you're coming from. I hope this simple message of mine will touch your loving heart. Its really hard and difficult to find people you want to share your heart and soul these days, but who knows.. I still believe that somewhere there.. God bless. Thanks CBJ. It seems that the search for love knows no boundaries.

I live in a small, conservative town, and no gay bars or clubs. So, I don't have to try to avoid them. I do enjoy visiting gay clubs when I travel to larger cities, and have met some nice people and remain friends with a couple I met in a club in Atlanta several years ago. I'm a 60 year old man, searching for a partner.

As I have aged, I've come to understand that the man I hope to meet is not a supermodel but is emotionally available, mature and kind. And, I remain optimistic that I'll meet him. In the meantime, I try to stay healthy, active and social. My friends and my family mean so much to my happiness, and I plan to invite my partner to that group.

Many probably won't want to hear this, but this sagely advice is still true: You can't love someone until you can love yourself. A problem in the gay community is we often have high expectations with little room for flexibility. Curbing idealizations is key to finding sustainable partnerships. There's no doubt the conventionally hot, bearded, chiseled man is yummy, but these men represent a small subset of the gay community; prioritizing the Adonis who has his own problems and insecurities, too, mind you won't get you into a loving relationship.

The proclivity of gay men to value physical attractiveness over emotional intelligence and communication is short-sighted. Good looks WILL fade; the foundations you've built with someone who's been with you through your deepest lows is what makes a relationship. My advice is to work on yourself. Always work on yourself.

Know what makes you happy and build relationships and communities based on those factors. A few of my key "rules":. Looking for love is hard—online and off.

If you're older and looking for someone younger, know it's probably not going to be easy for you. If you're a person of color who only wants to date white men, deal with your internalized racism I'm Asian and trust me, loving other men of color is incredibly empowering. If the beginning of your dating profile reads: Firstly, I want to know how many people actually sign up at community colleges to "meet" people.

Not to mention Should I mention how many millennials are in debt for college loans. Have you been to the rural south? Sure I can volunteer at Walmart. Or volunteer at a local hospital But these are hardly two places I'd imagine meeting a compatible match. I've seen these advice tips given all over the internet and I'm convinced thise that are giving them live in either New York, LA or some other multimillion populous.

For guys like me, stuck in the south Or driving an hour to a gay bar since there aren't even any of those around. And these alliance groups?